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19 days ago

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Getting family to understand your Childs disability

We are staying at the parents-in-laws place for 3 weeks waiting for our new home to be ready. Our little girl is 7 and has ADHD and anxiety and is really struggling staying there. She's trying her best but it's really hard for her so her frustration tolerance is at an all time low as is her ability to control her emotions. The in-laws have started saying comments like "you just need to teach her to behave!" And other such useful comments as that. My little girl has picked up on it and sadly says "I don't try to be bad. I'm trying to be good" and we know she is but the in-laws don't get it. I've tried to explain to then so many times about what ADHD actually os and what our little girl needs from us, but it's really starting to get to me too and one more horrifically mis-informed comment that does more damage than good I'm going to lose my mind.
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19 days ago

Grrrrr bloody comments. That's a tough one. I share memes or post. I have done private chat videos of meltdowns. Some ppl you just have to let go of for your own sanity & child wellbeing/acceptance x

19 days ago

Could you give them a book on adhd or some articles to read that you feel are relevant. Perhaps them reading information from a different source might get through to them . I know what it feels like to have your needs dismissed like you are just a fussy parent and it doesn’t feel great . Hang in there for the 3 weeks and congratulations on your new home 🏡

19 days ago

Sorry to hear what's happening. Sounds difficult, you can't explain something to someone who unfortunately doesn't want to understand

19 days ago

I hear you fully. When we go home to visit family we had these comments. My family are of the older generation and when I was growing up adhd just wasnt really a thing. We had "naughty" children in class who parents thought the behaviour was down to rubbish parenting. So now they can see that these children had needs which just weren't being met at all, after talking to them about adhd and explaining about the brain, and the people who observed my child to get this diagnosis. I got them to watch a couple of short ted talks. Now they get it, although they struggle with how to be with my child sometimes if hyper behaviour and impulses take over.

19 days ago

Thanks everyone. I think it is made harder by the fact that they have 3 other grandchildren who are all neurotypical and all over achievers, and their parents thus parent in a very different way- so it is our parenting style is seen ad the cause, and our little girl is seen as just misbehaving by choice

19 days ago

Getting family to understand your Childs disability
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