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20 days ago

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Siblings and autism🥺

Ok so… im at a real loss. How the hell do I make things fair for my two girls? They are 6 and 7 and the youngest Is Autistic. She often becomes attached to routines or rituals. The youngest has become obsessed with sitting next to her babysitters super cute son each morning on the way to school. She loves him so much and they laugh and play and its adorable. The problem is her sister sometimes wants to sit next to him too. She agrees take turns…. then when it comes down to it LOSES it when she cant be with him and it throws off her ENTIRE day. Part of me just wants to give her what she needs to set her mind at ease and talk to her sister about why. But I also feel bad for her sister and like I can never make it fair. Suggestions!? Im ready to start bribing older sister secretly just to sweeten the deal 😂😂😂
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20 days ago

I made set spots for my kids in the car so they can't fight, but this year I drop my eldest off to high school first so now my sons who are 9 and 10 take turns in the front so one child one day, the next day the other child. It was a bit of a struggle at first but now it works well.

20 days ago

Make a schedule and take turns . Try alternate days or morning versus afternoon or even week A miss 6 turn and Week B miss 7 turn and have it on the fridge to be seen before getting to the car

20 days ago

i tried this! Tried scissor paper rock, flipping coin, dojo turn picker and visuals but when push comes to shove she is obsessed about being next to the baby 😬

20 days ago

I dont think its bribery- i think your oldest daughter might understand, especially if it’s explained that as an autistic person she cant control her reactions and regulate as well, and as an understanding sister can get a reward, parental appreciation etc

19 days ago

yes!!! I try to do this my boys. My eldest said to me ge will never learn if I keep doing that. I told him he is the one that needs to learn.

17 days ago

I think if you want to transition to turn taking maybe visuals will help and start everything early to make time for the meltdown that you know will happen. Then it should reduce each morning over time. We did this with my daughter and minecraft as she just would not be pried away and claimed it as her own! The meltdowns were huge, so huge I just wanted to let her play. But I knew that over time that wasn’t going to be ok as I have other kids that want to play and I need to be able to redirect her for other reasons too. But I’m not sure if it’s worth doing all of that for a car ride in the morning. I think in your position I’d have a chat with your older daughter and give her an alternative incentive such as some time with the bub after you stop or do drop off

20 days ago

Siblings and autism🥺
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