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Coping with behaviour challenges
Hi Everyone. I’m looking for others in a similar situation to me. Blended family, adhd & anxiety diagnosis for my daughter aged 10. She says horrible things to me constantly, yells, screams and often lashes out (pushes, slaps me etc) at me if she doesn’t like what I say (as in reprimanding her or saying no to something e.g you’re so mean, why are you so rude to me, stop talking to me, I hate you, I wish you weren’t my mum etc etc) and is even worse to my partner (her step dad). Wondering how others deal with this internally as I feel like I’m being beaten down time & time again when we provide her with such a loving, understanding home. She is well behaved at school and at her dads. I know our home is her safe haven and that’s where she can let it all out but how does that stop you as a parent from soldiering on and not falling into a depressive state? I’m really struggling. She goes to therapy sessions with her psychologist every fortnight and I’ve just started seeing a therapist myself. I praise and reward her when her behaviour is appropriate (in line with guidance from the psychologist). Looking for some words of wisdom to help me through this. Thanks.
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I hear you too. I have a 10 year old ASD 2 boy who is physically and verbally violent when he has a meltdown. I find the episodes so traumatic. It’s just so hard and wonder what the future holds. We are lucky these meltdowns are not all the time, sometimes once a week sometimes once every few months. I’m not sure if that makes it easier or harder! It’s so easy to get complacent and then boom a meltdown wipes the rug from under your feet. We are doing behaviour therapy and OT regulation stuff but only just beginning this journey. Our behaviour therapist says it takes TIME!! I am so open to hear from others on advice too!
Hi, we are the exactly the same. My 10 year old boy is very horrible to me, and he also tells me he is horrible on purpose so when others tell me he isn't meaning it I'm sorry I dont believe that. We deal with meltdowns and tantrums and anger outbursts every single day. He goes to school, families houses, friends houses and he is fine, intact everyone tells me he is perfect. He only treats me like this nobody else. Please feel free to message me
My 5 year old is exactly the same and it is so hard. I've really noticed a huge increase in my anxiety around his bad days/weeks. I struggle alot when he is so unkind to his brother. Kindness is more important than anything in my eyes and it's so hard seeing him being awful. I'm sorry I have no advice but I hear you 🤍🤍
This is so tough not to take personally and therefore resent. 😪 Yes you are the safe place, so you cop the most. They just can't put in words to ask for help or say sorry. Yes emotional hangover is definitely a thing. But they feel horrible inside too. Self care for mumma helps. Respiridone was the only thing that calmed these aggressive outburst for us
Our boy is 22 on a bad day flips furniture, smashes crockery, bites, hits, kicks and verbally abuses us and his carers. On a good day he is amazing. Have just started with our fourth behaviour support team. On deralin, risperidone and vomax. Thankfully bad days are reducing now and we have more good days. Still we always feel like we are on the defensive.