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15 days ago

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New Teacher Anxiety

Hi all, My daughter is Year 2 and has quite severe anxiety and has been diagnosed with ASD Level 2 with changes to routine and structure being a huge trigger for her. For the start of the year she had two teachers, however her actual teacher is coming back this term. She is starting to refuse to want to go to school and has been struggling to deal with the impending change (crying, lashing out) I know that this behaviour will continue T school so trying to make the change as easy for her as possible (even though it really won’t be) . Has anyone dealt with simile and can offer any advice?
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15 days ago

I know when my kids have had school refusal, I would bake and decorate cupcakes to help. They thought it was awesome they got a special treat to take to school that they decorated. Also open a dialogue about the teacher and how awesome she is and ask the school to make a social story to also help her. Ask her what her main reservations are and see if she can come up with some of her own ideas with guidance from you, so think emotional coaching but do it when she is already in a really calm place. Hope that is helpful

15 days ago

thank you! Her previous teacher she didn’t like very much anyway but it’s that idea of change and better the person you know kind of thing. Because she goes back Tuesday I think I’ll make the social story (being a teacher myself) and then reading it with her during the week :)

15 days ago

Hey Bec, it's so hard 😔 my little girl is year 2 too and we have the same issues with teachers. A change in teacher is so hard for them to deal with. What we found helped was trying to keep as much consistency as possible- everything from bag placement, where she sits in the classroom, rhe classroom layout- everything identical to how it was when she was happy with her teacher. We also found that getting to school half an hour before everyone else and getting some solo time on the monkey bars really helps too. Getting there at the same time as everyone else was just far too much

15 days ago

my sister takes her so she definitely gets to school early and will raise this with the school! Thanks so much!

15 days ago

My daughter has ASD level 2 as well. Had some school refusal last year due to the teacher, she couldn't stand her. There was refusal and her getting sent home early a lot as she would attack the teacher. She does not deal with change well either. Like someone else has said if they try and keep the things structurally in the same spot like where her bag goes and where she sits and the same kind of school routine the same and only thing that is changed is the teacher it will be an easier transition. Also if they cater to her likes for the transition, for example my daughter likes pokemon so they made a spot on the floor with a pokemon character and Indi's name and that is where she sits. If they engage her with her interest and likes it is helps for transitions. Indi also use to take a comfort toy to school for a while and this worked too.

15 days ago

This is so tricky!!! My son went through terrible school refusal for several years however year 3 was the worst! He didn't like his teacher at all. We had a behaviour therapist come in and help us aswell as a support worker every morning. Eventually a calm room was created a video type social story and a very slow transition back into the class room. It was a tough journey! At the end of the day my son needed to feel safe and in control that is what helped him the most.

15 days ago

New Teacher Anxiety
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