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25 days ago

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Navigating challenging behaviours

My 9 yr old boy was suspended today from school for hitting his aid, I completely understand there has to be conisquences for his actions I just really struggle as I also work in the office at the school he attends I am really struggling with his behaviours as I’m feeling judged majorly by the people I work with on the way he behaves as if I am able to control it all.. it is a small town school with only 300 kids but everytime there’s an incident regarding my boy it’s like we are the talk of the school. My boy has some very complex needs but some days he is just not coping and he becomes aggressive and very vocal.. as I said it’s more of a vent but it is just getting harder and harder to not feel like I’m constantly being judged and felt like we should not be there.
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25 days ago

This is the place to vent. Does your son understand what is happening and why he now is away from school? This is hard because he could have been going through so many things in the lead up that need to be explored a bit more, we actually went through something a little similar today. Can you let them know how you are feeling?

25 days ago

Yeah he was so apologetic after as he knew after it happened he had done the wrong thing and for the first time of being suspended he actually cried about being suspended where all the times before he was excited to not have to go to school.. It’s just so hard as he never asked to have all these difficulties but he has to deal with all the consequences that he really doesn’t have control over them and starting puberty doesn’t help either a 9 yr old that can’t deal with normal emotions and hormonal emotions on top of it is just so much for him to deal with..

25 days ago

Vent away. Something about the way you're constantly feeling/being judged makes me think that you're constantly not being heard and that your sons support needs are not being met. If they are judging you based on that then they have some stepping up to do

25 days ago

So glad you have found this community- definitely the best space to vent. My son was the same- totally feel u with the judgement- I didn’t work at the school but do fdc not far away, my son has hurt aides but when I went into the situation as a whole there was always a reason- an explanation and not an excuse as some may take it. Have they identified triggers and put sensory diets into place? Being in a remote area, can you get therapists in there to assist in assessing the situation and providing help to teachers? I know you said it was a vent, just can’t help but offering advice lol sorry! Just know it was hard enough walking in there for 100s meetings every yr after suspensions, let alone working there :( sending you lots of positive vibes- hope you both have a good weekend ♥️

24 days ago

I work at 2 if my kids school and I remember feeling that exact judgement as my daughter would run around the school screaming and they are at a school of no more then 150 students so small school communities talk unfortunately, it has taken me a lot of time to just realise they just don't understand and people are always going to have opinions and have to just know our truth and protect myself from the nasty judgement so I choose to ignore the judgement. I also worked with the principal and learning support on some strategies to put in place for a plan for her and a place for her to regulate herself. Sending you hugs 🥰

25 days ago

Navigating challenging behaviours
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