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19 days ago

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The mental weight of caring for a child with a disability

Vulnerability. Hope. I had a full breakdown. Sharing the load… If you feel like the world is too heavy sometimes, you’re not alone. I should’ve shared with my tribe in the thick of it, I know I could’ve reached out and you’d be there for me but I think I simply didn’t want to admit I was back there. At the bottom of a dark deep well. My husband came with me to the psychiatrist for immediate medical support, I booked into a new psychologist. And went on retreat. It wasn’t the relaxing kind. It was caring and intense and so very helpful. 4 days of psychological workshopping, meditation, having blankets pulled up over you, heat packs made, nutritious healthy food made and presented to you. No need to keep a watch or phone on you, switch off. Carers NSW gave me this retreat over a year ago and with covid it kept getting pushed back so it was there waiting and I decided to jump in (actually my family nudged me strongly in). I’m getting better but still a long way to go. I have leant I need to book in time away to avoid the exhaustion. There were participants from all walks of life and reasons for attending. I realise the human condition is what it is. I’m not sure if I can offer support but I can offer understanding if anyone else feels the mental load, the weight.. Any idea’s anyone has for recovering from burnout and coming back from a breakdown I’d love to hear what has worked/hekped? I’m scared about rejoining the world and just going back the old patterns.
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19 days ago

By carving out time in the evening, after the kids are in bed with an adult home to watch them, I go for evening walks with Spotify on. During the day, weather permitting, I sit out on the hammock with tea and music. That’s how I recharge. Netflix before bed is great but doesn’t cover cabin fever. I also phone or meetup with a friend to talk about random things to change it up. Family road trips are also great “breaks” (music, scenery, stopping at new spots to explore) if childcare options are not available and it keeps kids entertained.

18 days ago

thank you for those ideas. I’ll put those on my whiteboard in my notebook too. Xx

19 days ago

I’m reading this thinking, you can’t be serious, did she’s just read my feelings out loud? I’m so thrilled to hear this worked for you and thank you so much for sharing it and didn’t even know there was such a thing called Carers NSW retreat. Will definitely look into it. Much love

18 days ago

it’s hard but good to not be in it alone. It’s not their retreat, they gave me a spot on a retreat that was counselling based. Do ask them about respite and feel free to message if you want any more details. Xx

18 days ago

Sending you so much love! Earlier this year I had the biggest breakdown I’ve had since my daughter was born. Thankfully, I have overcome it and am now in such a great place with myself and my life. It isn’t easy and takes so much work and it’s very confronting but I know how strong you are and I know you will rise again. Feel free to message me and I’m so happy to chat, spill my guts on my stuff and what helped me, just be there to listen x

19 days ago

The mental weight of caring for a child with a disability
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