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12 days ago

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Autism and sleepovers

Hubby and I were supposed to be going to a wedding in Bowral today and had organised mr 5’s first sleepover at his grandparents house. We realised last weekend that we probably can’t be that far away just in case something happened, so unfortunately declined the wedding invite. Grandparents still wanted us to take a night off, so we just planned a hotel stay local to their house (didn’t actually book it though). We have been talking about the sleepover all week, but have been met with complete refusal each time. I usually sleep with him at night, so have really become his safety blanket. This morning we woke up and started getting ready, and he totally refused, and hid under the bed & refused to leave. I have finally coaxed him out & we are now cuddled up in bed with the iPad. No sleepover - and no break for a weary mum & dad. We have only just had an ASD2 diagnosis, along with ADHD & ODD. It’s a steep learning curve for us, but especially for grandparents who don’t understand.
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12 days ago

That’s tough and disappointing for you and your husband . How about trying smaller amounts of time like 3 hours , enough time to go out to dinner together and then pick him up . My children don’t like sleep overs but are ok if their grandparents come to our place and look after them .

12 days ago

Another option could be trying a sleep over at grandparents with you sleeping there as well , get him comfortable being there with you before trying a visit without you perhaps

12 days ago

thanks. Good idea. We are still getting used to the fact that things need to be managed a bit differently. Start small and build up. 😊

12 days ago

Oh I hope you guys are ok ❤️ I’ve missed many a wedding :/ we’ve found minding good at home but not out. Although never overnight. So mil comes here, we don’t drop any kids there. I find this aspect challenging but the upset has decreased a bit over the years. Big hugs x

10 days ago

So tricky isn’t it. My daughter (7) now will sleep over at her nanas but used to get quite anxious about it. She is great now, so hang in there. Perhaps a social story to explain the sleep over could help

12 days ago

Autism and sleepovers
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