12 days ago
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Need help with kindy refusal
Help please i need ideas! My 4 year old son refuses to go to kindy. He gets really upset and angry when it’s mentioned. we had 4 good days last term and the rest of the term i couldn’t even get him out the car without a massive meltdown. I ended up leaving it hoping a bit of break would help him but it hasn’t. We had play dates in the holidays with other kindy kids and their mum’s and he was feeling very positive about going up until today when we had to take his older sister to school. Now it’s been non stop since this morning that he isn’t going. any girls never had this issue at all they gladly waved me off 😂 So i’m feeling pretty lost and a bit alone with this atm! I’ve spoken to kindy as well and haven’t had much support on what i could try. Please help a mumma out 😊
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A table set up with his favourite activity may help. Arriving early and going inside or after everyone is seated, to avoid crowds. A reward treat in his lunch bag for going to school, can be a healthy food that he loves and would get anyways but highlighted as a kindy treat. Social stories. Also see how he feels about the washrooms at school. Sometimes that can be an issue.
We used visuals to help my son. He got two choices of what he would do when he arrived so he felt in control of the situation. Did something happen in the past to upset him?
Visuals helped my son along with a special treat. I use to make chocolate zucchini cake and he had no idea that it was healthy 😅. What also set my son off was having sensory overloads and sometimes the class was too much, so I would take him on earlier so it wasn't as chaotic for him.
Oh l totally get it. It’s so so hard and heartbreaking knowing they aren’t coping. My daughter struggled with preschool but we managed, she had my sister in law there as a director so that helped. She also had a lot of visuals to help her. First year of kindergarden was also tricky to navigate. But in year one now and loves it. I am so grateful for this. Hopefully time helps you guys too. Lots of chats, visuals, social stories and plans for drop offs
He hurt his knee so when he was upset and i wasn’t there that has stuck with him. But he has also said only this afternoon that he hates mat time. he struggles to sit still and wants to keep playing. I’ve said i would stay with him pick him up early and have said i will buy him something special he wants. My dad has tried taking him also all tho he didn’t stay but i saw this as a positive as dad managed to get my son in the gate. i could speak with kindy about coming in early that’s a good idea they might be ok with that. we aren’t allowed in the building tho thanks to covid so that makes it tough also. He loves play dough and they always have that set up but he still won’t go.