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19 days ago

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Will my daughters find a way to play ❤️ together?

Hello 👋 kinship friends This is my very first post.....since I have enjoyed reading posts and understanding family experiences. I thought I will be brave and share my story. I have 2 little girls both incredibly beautiful. My eldest has ASD level 2. She is 4 in a few months and we had a diagnosis just shy of a year ago. She is non verbal. My youngest is 2.5 going on 12 somewhat hehe. She has a wisdom beyond her years and is neurotypical. Of late I have noticed my youngest asking questions about her sister, or asking her to play with her or get her attention and it breaks my heart when she is either in her zone and tunes out, doesn't give her a reaction and looks confused that she plays differently. I know they adore each other, always cuddle and ask for one another when they wake up and throughout the day.......my question is, is does it get easier or harder watching my youngest thrive, bloom and develop typically......where Raphy we celebrate the small wins as if they are mountains we have climbed step by step as a family I feel like my youngest is curious and already sensing her sister is different but at 2yrs old might she not yet be too young to understand what is going on? We have sent Ana to long daycare while I run Raphy for all her supports and that is helping Ana's need to play with typical kids her age and engage I love them both so much 💓 💕 as we all love all our children.....just wanted to see if anyone else out there is in the same posi having one autistic child bw the 2
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18 days ago

Your daughters are gorgeous. It can be really challenging when they are so young, I remember how unsure I was if my kids would ever get along and do things together. Just a bit of a background I had 4, 4 and under. 3 are apart of the neurodiverse community. My youngest is neurotypical. My kids have moments where they overwhelm each other and have disagreements just like most siblings but they do play together as well now they are a bit older. With my youngest I always spoke about my kids disabilities openly with all of them and always spoke about it in a strength based way, so my youngest just accepted them as it was just apart of who her big brothers and big sister is. My youngest is now in year 2 and makes sure she includes the kids that have disabilities in her class. At 2 your youngest may not completely comprehend but it is definitely worth maybe getting a couple of kids books that you can read with them and keep to continue those conversations as they grow older.

18 days ago

thankyou so much for your advice and sharing your story....it brings me comfort hearing this and I shall try the acceptance picture books 📚 such a great 👍 idea

18 days ago

Oh what beautiful girls ❤️ sounds like you are doing a beautiful job and are so intuitive to both their needs. I have three girls, one with autism and cerebral palsy….it can be tricky to navigate that’s for sure. I’m not sure if it actually gets easier or it feels somewhat easier, I think because you learn to adapt and it becomes a new normal.

18 days ago

yes so very true this is us! 🙂🤗💞

18 days ago

Thank you for being brave and posting this! What beautiful girls you have! I have a 4 yr old son who is awaiting an ASD/ADHD diagnosis and 2.5 yr old neurotypical daughter and I haven’t yet thought about how we discuss and approach these differences as a family. The interaction between my kids and yours sounds very similar. I have no advise as we are just starting our journey so I’m following your post hoping to gain the wisdom of others 😊 Thank you for posting and highlighting something we need to think about!

18 days ago

Hi. Welcome and so glad you posted- your girls are gorgeous! I have 2 chn and both are neurodivergent, but I have been a family day care educator their whole lives so have had a lot of experience in teaching younger children about the nuances of how everyone plays and thinks differently. We still do social stories for the other children too such as “if Logan doesn’t look at me, it can mean he is still listening or might play with me later” and talking with them while ‘observing’ Logan like “do you think he knows Joe wants to play? I wonder if Joe can say …” or “Logan seems really frustrated, I wonder what we could do to help? Does he need our help or does he need a minute?” As said above, I think it definitely feels easier as they get older as you all have a better understanding and handling of things. Good luck ♥️

18 days ago

thankyou they are also very good tips.....social stories 👌 👏 I like that approach also as it is inclusive and considerate of all children 😀

19 days ago

Will my daughters find a way to play ❤️ together?
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