13 days ago
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Struggling with everyday life being a mum
I feel like I’m failuring or just struggling to get everything under control. Washing, housework, trying to get a few things organised to help baileigh with her asd and getting her into a routine every time I start getting to a routine something happens an we get Covid or the kids get sick, or I hurt my back just something happens on someone in the house hold gets rushed to hospital, does anyone else feel like it’s a never ending cycle?
Picture of my little munchkins! So we don’t get lost ( B being proud because she’s learnt how to do Peace)
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My dear, never ever feel like you are the only one, because I can 1000% vouch for the same feelings often. But, the reality is we probably will never be all over absolutely everything, we are only one person with a one person capacity. As time goes on in your own time you will prioritise the absolute and the can do another day tasks. It takes time and letting go of that mental control of everything takes time but you will get there.. From a personal perspective I make weekly lists. Not daily. Because no day looks the same for me. They are realistic tasks and always start minimal, so during the week I work through the list and generally cross everything off by Sunday and feel great that I did that. I’m sure you are an absolute super mum juggling a million hats, but remember to give yourself grace. If you and your children felt happiness love and connection today then you have done an amazing job today x
I am with you! So much so that I wonder about ADHD for myself. We moved house a month ago, and other than the kids’ rooms there is not a space anywhere that doesn’t still have crap all over the place. And a couch so full of washing to fold that you can’t sit on it! I have days of despairing and days of not caring, but it’s so hard not to compare yourself to people who seem to be always in control. I have no tips at all, but at least I know my kids feel loved 🤷♀️ 💕
Totally get this. I like to be on top of ALL the things but sometimes that’s impossible, so I’ve learnt l just need to lower my expectations of myself. It is overwhelming though. Give yourself permission to acknowledge these feelings when they arise x
I have been a mum for 25 years and have never got on top of anything. The first 20 years are the hardest!!! It is impossible to manage all the domestic things, therapy and work if we have that. We need help wherever we can get it. We deserve it too. And just trying to enjoy the day is the best success.
Being a mum isn’t easy ❤️❤️ I definitely go through this cycle and now I have more firm points of coping and not coping.